“Date A Girl Who Reads” by Rosemarie Urquico

Hey all!  Happy Tuesday!  In between applying for jobs to art galleries and writing articles about the recent JETAANY Career Forum, I took a bit of a break and stumbled across this awesome essay posted on TheHealthyWarrior.  Normally I don’t re-post entire entries, but I LOVE this essay and think you all should read it!!!

by Rosemarie Urquico
(In response to Charles Warnke’s You Should Date an Illiterate Girl)

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.  She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

Being one of those “girls who read,” I could really relate to what she says here – especially about smelling the pages of books, or knowing that books are fiction but still trying to make a little of their magic true in the “real world.”  Books are their own kind of magic.  They allow us to dream while we’re awake, and give hope and support when you don’t have any.  Books are a kind of magic, they way they sit in your hands with the same warm weight as  a friendly hug.  I hope you all enjoyed reading that essay as much as I did!  Viva la book readers!!!

~MS the Younger

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24 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. well said. speaking in behalf of all the girls who read.
    Dec 08, 2011 @ 07:09:21

    well said. speaking in behalf of all the girls who read.


  2. Andrea
    Dec 14, 2011 @ 11:11:24

    I loved this because I am the girl who spends money on books instead of clothes. I am the girl who has had a library card to a public library since the age of 12. I am the girl who believes that the characters I read about are real. I am the girl who loves the smell of books. I am the girl who will probably be sniffing books at a bookstore. I am the girl who has an unread book in her bag. I am the girl who has an untouched drink beside her because the book is too engrossing. I am the girl who will rather sit at home and read than go out and party. I am the girl who will quote my favorite lines from my favorite books. I am the girl who will introduce books to kids from an early age. I am a girl who reads.. And I also happen to be a girl who writes ;)


  3. azphoenix
    Dec 14, 2011 @ 16:33:29

    Beautiful piece! A great reminder that the world is not all superficial and definitely not like reality TV… there is a world beyond this, a world of imagination. :)


  4. Jonny Beyond
    Dec 14, 2011 @ 19:52:29

    Hello Ladies,

    I’ve dated several girls that were avid readers. The smartest one (also the craziest one) was reading a new book almost every week.

    Have a Beautiful day!


    Jonny Beyond


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  6. NS
    Dec 18, 2011 @ 01:16:10

    This is a beautiful write-up!!!


  7. Steve
    Dec 21, 2011 @ 21:55:55

    So…I’m dating a girl who reads. I will stand by the essence of this essay. It is true.


  8. Cassie
    Dec 27, 2011 @ 03:32:10

    I’ve had a library card since I was 6. <3


  9. cecil mack
    Jan 14, 2012 @ 01:57:21

    I’ve never been happier about a post that made more sense in 2012… :D <– this guy is glad you ladies exist!


  10. bee1025
    Jan 17, 2012 @ 21:53:25

    love it!!!!! Reading is my past time when I can because of school and all!


  11. s
    Feb 20, 2012 @ 03:55:48


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  13. s
    Apr 19, 2012 @ 17:02:00

    cute as a parody, but fails as a response to “You Should Date an Illiterate Girl” in my opinion, as its simply spells out/ repeats the metaphor of the first piece in layman’s terms, instead of responding to it in any sort of meaningful way….


  14. Bornila
    Apr 30, 2012 @ 07:26:21

    wonderful! I love to read.


  15. madhuripratinidhi
    May 02, 2012 @ 05:57:39

    I read and thus I feel this post thrrough & through! But sigh. That’s quite a task to find a guy like that (grin). Write-up; Realism put down in the right perspective!


  16. madsilence
    May 29, 2012 @ 20:58:42

    Just finished reading The Bookman’s Wake by John Dunning, a mystery written by an expert on rare & collectible books, with a protagonist who (you guessed it!) owns a book store and demonstrates profound insight into the allure of the printed word.


  17. Mohit Golchha
    Jul 26, 2012 @ 06:34:50

    it was well written but the thought was horrifying! :)


  18. Navleen
    Jul 27, 2012 @ 04:09:08

    True ! even i love reading novels. passing a time watching tv is a wasteful act, why not read a novel. u gain so much .
    Thanks to my dad ,because of him i got this habit of reading books. :) ;)


  19. Mayakanon
    Aug 23, 2012 @ 02:59:45

    I am very impressed. I came across to this article from a Bengali translation of this post http://www.sachalayatan.com/dhusor_jolchobi/44387 . It was awesome!


  20. maguire
    Oct 01, 2012 @ 22:14:43

    This is the most beautifully true thing I have ever heard. I am a girl who reads and this is something I will never stop reading.


  21. yhenrhegz
    Jan 15, 2013 @ 05:03:19

    true .. im a bookworm and i love it . .


  22. wordedveil
    Jan 22, 2013 @ 11:49:02

    Reblogged this on Worded Veil.


  23. rans
    Feb 21, 2013 @ 01:48:27

    i sooooo loved this ! i love the thing that girls who read have lived in many many worlds beyond ! and yes i always loved Alice and wanted to be Alice ! <3


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